Sunday, May 27, 2007
This article made me SOOOOOO mad. The teaser says, "I thought of a million reasons why adopting a baby was a bad idea. But as soon as I met my daughter I forgot them all."
I thought - oh yeah - an article about how some people need time to get used to the whole adoption thing. This is a good thing.
Then I read the article
Here are some excerpts:
"It's true I had my doubts (oh, did I have my doubts!!). I was convinced adoption would ruin everything - my career, my lifestyle, my marriage. But the fact is I didn't run off. I didn't get a divorce...."
"A lot of women just don't get why men hesitate before plunging into adoption. Men are realists. We know what's at stake: time, money, career, sleep, and control of the remote. Where are you going to find time for a kid? You don't have any time as it is. and if you had a kid, you wouldn't get to go to the gym anymore. No more spur-of -the-moment movies. No more dinners at your favorite restaurant. You'll be exhausted getting up every two hours to feed a crying baby or change a dirty diaper. Let's face it: You've got other things to do. But with a kid, you'll never be allowed to do them. You think you'll get to watch Meet the Press Sunday mornings when Dora the Explorer is on? Not a chance."
Then he goes on to talk about money, jobs, etc.
Is it just me - or is everything this guy is saying has to do with being a Parent - it has nothing to do with adoption!!! The only thing he said in the ENTIRE article that was true in adoption was this sentence:
"And then there's this to consider: If you're adopting a child, we're talking about someone else's kid, not your own flesh and blood."
This just made me so mad.
He did sort of redeem himself with this end to the article. "The really big lesson I've learned is that adoption doesn't matter. Once you've become a parent, you stop thinking about how the kid came into your life. You're her father. She's your child. Adoption becomes a footnote, an asterisk that can easily be ignored. And ignore it I do."
I'm sure he's a great dad - I just didn't understand the article.
(and maybe I'm just being sensitive!!)
(Thanks to everyone for your thoughts and prayers. I'll write more about the lunch we had yesterday. Jay and his dad are doing ok. It's just hard to tell with them sometimes!! I'm just SO thankful that we have Alex. He has been a really nice distraction for all of us)
Thursday, May 24, 2007
Jay's parents were just at our house for Alex's birthday party. Linda had gone downhill since the last time we had seen her (Christmas). We're so happy they were able to make the trip for his birthday.
Jay and I packed up Alex and our stuff and headed to Chagrin Falls yesterday. We have some arrangements to take care of today.
I may not be blogging much for the next week. Please keep Jay and his dad in your prayers. Jay was very close to his mom.
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
Monday, May 14, 2007
Alex spent the afternoon in the big boy class today (the one year old class) and he made this. Of course I think it's wonderful, and he's obviously a genius. That elephant and gorilla that paints have nothing on my little guy!! :)
Friday, May 11, 2007
Today is one of those days.
A year ago today I came back into my office after being in some meetings. I had a missed call and a voice mail from Marie at Mary Kendall. She asked me to call her. My initial thought was, "Great, there must be something wrong with my paperwork." I had just been told the day before that everything was great and that we were on the list for a referral.
I called back and was told the wonderful news that they had a little boy for us. I'll never forget that feeling when I looked at his picture for the first time. I can't say that it was love at first sight. It was more awe and amazement that this was actually working.
I was a mom - I had a son - and four days before Mother's Day.
So, Happy Referral Day!!
Thursday, May 10, 2007
Through this adoption process I've met some really neat people. One person that I met on the a.com forum has a daughter that is one (or two days) younger than Alex. She and her husband are also Ohio State fans, so we've had fun getting to know each other.
Stephanie is a wonderfully creative person, and she has a business where she sells custom designed/made purses. I just ordered one this week and it came today. I LOVE it. (I just may have to order one of each!)
If you like purses, check out SammiBag . Stephanie and her husband have just found out that her daughter's birthmom is having another baby. They are trying to raise money for the second adoption in case they decide to move forward. All proceeds from the sale of the bags are going into the potential adoption fund.
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
Sunday, May 06, 2007
We went to Kelly and Michelle's last night to watch the Derby. Alex slapped Zach twice and pushed him a couple of times. He doesn't want to share anything. If Zach came close to him he pushed/hit. Does anyone have any suggestions?
I've told him no, but I don't think he understands what I mean. I'm not sure what I can do with him at this age, but I also want to nip this in the bud.
Can anyone help me???? I don't want a bully for a child. :(
Friday, May 04, 2007
Thursday and Friday we hung out and went to Sauder Farm and Craft Village. This is a really cool place in my home town that I've been to a thousand times. They are always adding things and improving it, so even though I've been there a lot, it's always a little different. My mom volunteers in the gift shop, so she can get us in for free. They have this new part, Little Pioneers Homestead, that is designed especially for little kids. The main part is Mary Ann's Cabin. Everything is child sized. They can wash, dry, and iron clothes, make a bed, rock a baby to sleep, cook, do puzzles, play with games, etc.
Alex had fun "making soup." We aren't exactly sure that's what he was doing, but that's what we said he was doing. He spent the entire time stirring the spoon in these little cups.
He loved it so much, we ended up buying him a spoon, saucer, cup set. He had a lot of fun as he was the only little one in the cabin.
The other place is called Miller's Barn. There is a fake cow in there that the kids can actually milk. It's pretty cool. Alex wasn't too sure about it!
Then there are chickens where you can collect the eggs. He thought this was pretty fun.....
....but he really wanted to eat the eggs.
We also went and checked out the new train. We'll have to go back sometime so Alex can ride the train.